Alexander describes this constant search for external approval as a “paradox” that never quite delivers. “If you try and seek validation, as soon as you get some you realise it’s not enough and you want more,” he explains. “It always always pushes you to find more but it’s never enough.” This struggle with ego is contrasted with his earlier “formative” years in the East London queer scene. Reflecting on a time of heavy partying, he admits, “I definitely abused my body in ways I’m not sure I’m proud of,” recalling weekends that would end at “East Bloc, 6am” before heading to after-parties.
A significant portion of the conversation focuses on Alexander’s tireless LGBTQ+ activism. He speaks with concern about how “trans people are often scapegoated, and are being demonised,” yet he remains optimistic about the support within the creative industry. Discussing a letter he helped organize for the community, he notes, “A lot of people signed it, Dua Lipa, Tom Grennan, Charli XCX, Wolf Alice—people are there and people want to support!” This spirit of advocacy culminates in his curated event, Trans Mission, at OVO Wembley Arena on March 11. He describes the fundraiser as “a joyful event of unity” that aims to be “very positive” in its support for trans charities.
The episode also features drag icon Jonny Woo, who shares a harrowing story of a coma following a period of extreme hedonism. The trio’s discussion weaves through themes of loss and recovery, with Alexander even touching on the “life-affirming” experience of losing his grandmother. Ultimately, the artist views his journey as an ongoing lesson in balance, moving away from the “denial” of his early fame toward a more grounded, purpose-driven life.
